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Our Tendency Is To Dismiss Rape As ‘A Women Issue’: Shashi Tharoor



We have heard Politicians making derogatory remarks when it comes to rape. Politicians have come up with certain solutions that are nothing but a joke. A joke you cannot laugh at, but simply feel frustrated about. But this time, we have a politician making a lot of sense on the subject of rape: Shashi Tharoor.

“Our tendency is to dismiss rape as “a women’s issue”. It’s not. It’s an issue that affects all of us, male or female, because it affects all of society.” Shashi Tharoor 

In the series of open letters on #LetsTalkAboutRape by Hindustan Times, Shashi Tharoor has written a letter addressed to all the politicians. That, how it is not the law which is weak, but its execution. He even quoted a few reactions of renowned politicians highlighting their mindset.

My dear fellow political leaders and workers,

How do I, a man, write to you, mostly men, about rape? It’s not a subject we have talked about. Indeed, had I attempted to raise it, you would have felt uncomfortable. We politicians talk about everything under the sun, but not rape.

That has to change, if we want to make a difference.

Understanding the problem means acknowledging that some remarks politicians make about rape are simply wrong. It is wrong to claim that rapes take place in cities and not in villages. Some of the most horrific rapes have taken place in rural India, especially of women who have gone out into the fields at night to relieve themselves.

Recently, a Santhal woman was raped by twelve men for the “crime” of having fallen in love with a man from another community. This happened on the orders of a tribal “court” called a salishi sabha. While the Supreme Court has been expanding the rights of women in a series of recent judgments, traditional bodies like khap panchayats have been narrowing women’s freedoms. We politicians must stand on the side of women and not with the khaps.

It is wrong to blame rape on the victims. Too many politicians point to the way women dress or behave for the violence inflicted upon them. Jeans and short skirts have each been blamed, as has “being out with a boy late at night”. Why do politicians place the onus on the girl to dress in a certain way rather than the boy to behave properly?

It’s our job to work to create a safe society where a woman can go anywhere at any time without having to fear assault — not to excuse the criminals who prey on women who dress a certain way.

We politicians must also stop making excuses for rapists. It is wrong to suggest that “boys will be boys, they make mistakes” or that laws mandating the death penalty should be changed. The law should be supported — and “boys” should be responsible citizens of our society, not just “boys”.

Rape is not an acceptable response to changing social mores. Rapes have been blamed by a sitting CM on men and women interacting freely, and by a former CM on the absence of child marriage. One criticised girls carrying mobile phones, since his mother never needed one. Phones do not make women more vulnerable, of course. And turning back the clock on progress never actually changes the time.

But all these comments point to the real problem: politicians have not fully been able to come to terms with the growing emancipation of women in our society, their increasing freedoms, their autonomy from male control — on everything from how they dress to where they go, when, and with whom. When some men react to unfamiliar circumstances with violence and assaults, some politicians are reluctant to condemn and punish them, because at heart they share the same resentment the rapists feel.

At the same time, we politicians, even the women amongst us, express patriarchal attitudes. We see rape not just as physical assault but as respect-depriving tragedy; the trauma of rape is compounded by the level of social stigma attached to it. The victim is made to feel that she has been defiled, violated and shamed publicly, and is no longer fit to lead a normal life – even a woman minister lamented that a rape victim was a “zinda laash” (a living corpse). Politicians must not reinforce social control of female sexuality and male sexual entitlement, which we do, for instance, when we oppose criminalisation of marital rape. We have a duty to reiterate that rape is not about sex: it is about violence.

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And though our job is to protect women, we sometimes act as if sexual violence is not a priority for us. “You are safe, why are you bothered?” one CM asked a reporter who questioned him about rapes increasing in his state. Our tendency is to dismiss rape as “a women’s issue”. It’s not. It’s an issue that affects all of us, male or female, because it affects all of society.

As political leaders, we should also speak out more against social attitudes that, by diminishing women’s value in our society, could one day prompt or justify violence against them. Preferential treatment given to boys over girls in our homes and workplaces. Abuse of women on social media. Attacks on women journalists and writers. Sexist portrayals of women in popular culture that legitimise male harassment, whether the songs of Honey Singh or movies that glamourise men stalking women.


We must stop confusing our idea of a family’s honour with confining women behind a lakshman rekha that they must not cross — and believing that if a woman transgresses it, she deserves what she gets. Such attitudes must be fiercely opposed, and as leaders, we are uniquely placed to challenge them.

We don’t need to write new laws. The 2013 rape law is strong, but its implementation still has a long way to go. Women are often reluctant to report rapes, and policemen to record them. Successful rape prosecutions are all too rare. Sexual violence is rife in rioting, but lost in the clamour around the riot itself. We politicians know that while we can pass laws that protect women, we have to ensure the authorities actually enforce them. Too many politicians seek to undermine law enforcement, rather than support it.

Dear netajis, what I am calling for in this letter is zero-tolerance for rape by politicians. If we set the example, the nation will follow. Let us honour Bharat Mata and truly ensure her “jai”.


Yours sincerely,

Shashi Tharoor


You have to think before blaming all the politicians for talking nonsense now on. Not all are same. If this letter makes sense to you, spread the word.

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