Phone calls from your father…especially when you are away from home like staying in hostels or PGs in other cities, mean a lot. Such phone calls lead to a lot of emotions but we try to control ourselves. I would like to share how one of my friends takes it… She doesn’t talk to her parents on phone saying that she would burst into tears and she doesn’t want to give tension to her mother. So she prefers not to talk at all. We all can’t be that strong. We do talk to our fathers but we all must have tried to hide our emotions, our tears and our “miss you” feeling during these calls. Nonetheless, there are some favourite questions that all Dads have to ask from their hostellers kids:
How are you?
This is first question that is fixed for every time he calls you up! He knows your answer but still he will ask. You know why? Because he wants to listen it from you for assurance. And your answer will be ‘I’ good. Though you are not good. Though it’s not like home. But still you’ll lie because you don’t want to bother him.
What are you doing?
With the answer of this question he just wants to feel attached to you, wherever you are, whatever you’r doing he just wants to feel you are okay. And you must be missing home but won’t tell him for sure.
What did you have for dinner?
This question is again similar with all dads as knowing you don’t like cooking, he is worried if you are eating well or not. But he will never show you his worries. And your answer will always be in the affirmative and sometimes even tell exotic stuff that you had for dinner even if you had only bread and butter.
How are studies or job?
This is something he knows you would be managing well, but will still ask you so that if there’s anything wrong, he can fix it. And you’ll always reassure him by saying it’s ok and suddenly it reminds you of the next day’s meeting for which you are not prepared. But you’ll not bother him.
When will you come home?
With this question he’s not just asking anything but saying what he feels. Like, home is not home without you, that he’s missing you so much which he won’t say directly to you. And you also understand what he means by that question and thinking about your busy schedule, you are actually not able to answer this question.
He knows life is difficult for you. At least it is not as easy as it was at home. But still, he will ask you “anything else” so that if you complain about anything, he can sort it out for you. But as usual you’ll say all good papa, don’t worry I’m fine. You will end up crying as you want to say a lot but can’t, sometimes because you are crying and sometimes because of his about-to-cry voice. In the end, you’ll say nothing but just okay bye Papa, take care and the phone call ends with okay beta bye!