If the term seven-year itch sounded like Greek to you, let us explain.
Seven-year itch is supposed to be a phase that every marriage suffers from, supposedly. It could happen to you in the 3rd or 4th year too, but mostly it is most dangerous after six or seven years of marital bliss. You feel no love, detached and it would seem that you and your partner are drifting away. You may have never heard of this itch or perhaps your friends have told you stories of a married man texting another woman or you’ve heard rumors of a wife being unfaithful around these times. Of course, it doesn’t happen to every couple but it is more common than you’d think.
Are you feeling no love and if you see no light at the end of the tunnel, then read on.
1. Revive those little acts of love that gave so much pleasure
That love note, the good morning peck, remember??? Don’t let monotonous daily routines ruin it. Surprise her with flowers or cook his favourite dinner.
2. Fix the communication gap
The office, boss, mother in-law, kids, dog will not go away if you close your eyes. But if you stop talking to each other, soon the love will go out of the window. Silly as it may sound, but fix a 20-minute time slot for each other, where you give each other undivided attention and switch off that phone please.
3. Take him out for a date
Yes, what’s wrong with that? We are progressive women. Why should we wait for him to make the first move. If you don’t want your marriage to resemble a business deal, then it’s high time you did something about it. Plan a movie date or just a drive will also bring back the magic.
4. Show your emotions
When you have known each other for so long, there comes a time when you start taking each other for granted. You might not be able to help your husband with his obnoxious clients, but you sure can make him feel loved and wanted. To know that somebody waits for you at home, is the greatest feeling in the world.
5. Your bedroom might be in a desperate need for a makeover
And, we don’t literally mean the bed. The battery of your sexual radar might be in dire need of changing. Talk about your needs from a fresh perspective. No talking will not help at all.
Over a period of time, we all tend to change and evolve. But try to remember the time when you met and fell for each other. Try to be that wonderful person again, who tried to see the good in every situation. Easier said than done, but not impossible.
7. Go for counselling
Unfortunately, there are couples who cannot see eye to eye after 7 years of marriage. If you think you are doomed, then please visit a marriage counselor before you take any extreme step. There might be children involved who need a second chance. Although, if you feel it is best for them and for you, to separate from your partner, then contacting a good divorce lawyer could be the right option. For example, getting a California QDRO is similar to other states in the US, who provide this service, and therefore, are able to give you the help and assistance you need during this difficult period of time in your life.
Marriages are made in heaven, but we have to make them work on earth!