At times after having a big fight or an argument with your partner you get that feeling, that things aren’t working out for the simple notion that happy couples don’t fight. If you have felt so, then you will be surprised to know there is no perfect relationship and if a couple claims theirs is, then either they don’t want to accept it or they haven’t discovered it yet. No relationship is without complications. The only difference with a happy couple is they know how to deal with it.
You’re Two Different Personalities
This is such a simple observation, no matter how many things you both have in common, you should accept that you are two different people who are bound to have clashes on a few things. Accepting this fact can minimize the unnecessary conflicts which take place when you force your partner to do or see things the way you do.
Not Thinking Before Speaking
When we are angry, this is something we all do. At times a person who doesn’t lose his calm easily blurts out hurtful statements which he didn’t mean and regrets later. In such a situation, you must learn to let go. This will help in reducing arguments and resentment.
Not Liking By Your Partner’s Friend/Family
It’s completely normal to not like one of your partner’s friend or a family member, but that doesn’t mean you should stop him from hanging out with them or he should force you to start liking them. The same applies to the situation if one of his friend of family member doesn’t like you. The key is, agree to disagree.
Feeling Like Your Relationship Has Lost the Spark
After a couple of years, every happy couple feels that their relationship is losing its spark. He may not get excited about the ‘monthly anniversary’ like before or vice versa. You might feel like there is no excitement left and he isn’t attracted to any more. Here you must understand that as time passes, priorities and responsibilities change. So, both of you should work together to rekindle that spark.
Dealing with Mood Swings
We all get stressed out at work and rarely get a chance to vent it out the very moment. There is a possibility your partner is having those rough days at office and you find him complaining and cribbing about every small thing. This might irritate you, but you must remain calm and understand that he needs your love and care more than ever. Happy couples show that they’re there for each other.
Two people are different personalities, so it’s obvious they will deal with conflict differently. One partner may prefer staying alone with the thoughts, while the other may prefer to talk about it immediately. Happy couples understand this and find a way that both agree on to solve the conflict.